Improper Treatment of Widows
Matthew 23:14 "Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees,
hypocrites! for ye devour widows' houses, and for a
pretence make long prayer: therefore ye shall receive the
greater damnation (KJV & YLT) but omitted in the ASV, ESV,
Darby, IEB (International English Bible) and other
Mar 12:38-40 "Beware of the scribes, who like to walk
around in long robes and like greetings in the marketplaces
and have the best seats in the synagogues and the places of
honor at feasts, who devour [exploit, strip one of his
goods (Thayer)] widows' houses and for a pretense make long
prayers. They will receive the greater condemnation." Also
Act 6:1 "In those days, as the number of the disciples
was growing larger and larger, a complaint was made by the
Hellenistic Jews against the Hebraic Jews that their widows
were being neglected in the daily distribution of food"
(ISV). [There appeared to be a lack of respect of
Hellenistic widows by Hebrew Christians.]
Responsibility of their Family
1Timothy 5:3-8 "Honor widows who are truly widows. But
if a widow has children or grandchildren, let them first
learn to show godliness [put their faith into practice
(IEB)] to their own household [by caring for their own
family (IEB)] and to make some return to their parents, for
this is pleasing in the sight of God.
She who is truly a
widow, left all alone, has set her hope on God and
continues in supplications and prayers night and day, but
she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives.
Command these things as well, so that they may be without
reproach. But if anyone does not provide for his relatives
[own house (KJV)], and especially for members of his
household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an
unbeliever [infidel (KJV)]" (ESV).
- Give respect to widows but allow the children and
grandchildren to grow by becoming servants
- The key words are "honor" and is "truly in
1 Timothy 5:16 "If any believing woman has relatives who
are widows, let her care for them. Let the church not be
burdened, so that it may care for those who are truly
- 'If any believing women' appears to exclude
believing men who has widowed relatives. However, all
Christians, man or woman, (James 1:27) are expected to
take care of them. Perhaps the man should provide
resources, so as not to burden the church. The enrolled
widows would perform the caring for function, thereby
avoiding any impropriety of a male relative "caring
for" widows in his family or extended family.
Responsibility of Church
"This is how we have come to know love: the Messiah gave his life for us. We, too, ought to give our lives for our brothers" (1 John 3:16)
James 1:27 "Religion that is pure and undefiled before
God, the Father, is this: to visit [take care of (ISV); to
look upon or after, to inspect, examine with the eyes
Hebraistically, to look upon in order to help or to
benefit, (Thayer's Lexicon)] orphans and widows in their
affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world"
- James addressed Christians - the twelve tribes
- The verb 'visit' as translated in most versions of
the Bible means to "come to (a person) to comfort or
benefit." The noun 'visit' means a "friendly or formal
call upon someone" (Etymology Online).
- The only restriction placed upon the church,
individually or as a body, was that widows must be in
affliction (distress, straits, oppression, tribulation
-Thayer Lexicon). 'Widows in their affliction' could be
women married; only once, more than once, Christian,
non-Christian or divorced and remarried.
1Timothy 5:5 "She who is truly a widow [widow indeed,
and desolate (KJV); lacking resources, impoverished (Online
Etymology Dictionary)], left all alone, has set her hope on
God and continues in supplications and prayers night and
day, but she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she
Truly a widow
- No family of any kind
- Non-Christian family will not provide for her
care - perhaps because she is a Christian
- A capable widow who makes no attempt to provide
for her needs does not appear to be destitute.
- Christian families of a widow who can but do
not take care of her needs are worse than infidels
1 Timothy 5:9-10 "Let a widow be enrolled [taken into
the number (KJV), registered (IEB)] if she is not less than
sixty years of age, having been the wife of one husband
[faithful to husband (NIV, NLT, IEB)], and having a
reputation for good works: if she has brought up children,
has shown hospitality [KJV adds to strangers], has washed
the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and
has devoted herself to every good work" (ESV).
The church enrolls a widow to perform function(s) for the Christian family and provides for her needs.
Widows are enrolled, taken into the number,
- Functions to be performed is not specified
- Places for performing the function is identified
- Needs may be met by giving food or money to purchase needs
Not less than sixty years of age
- For some type of work; e.g., men enrolled in the army
- Their work for the church was not done in some "church building" as there were none
- The church was still to care for destitute widows not enrolled - see James 1:27 above
Wife of one husband
- During the First Century women who reached the
age of 60 would, on average, die between their 60th
and 70th birthdays [revealedrome.com/2012
- The desire for sexual relations generally waned
during their last few years of their life.
- Destitute widows under 60 were still to be
cared for by the church but not enrolled as they
were expected to marry and not fulfill the task for which they were enrolled.
- Only married once
- Re-married following a divorce that terminated
the marriage caused by sexual immorality
(fornication) by her husband
- Re-married following a divorce that terminated
the marriage by adultery; i.e., breaking marriage
covenant other than by fornication.
- Re-married if marriage terminated by death of
- Married to only one man at a time- not a
Reputation for good works
- Community knows and respects her because she
helps others by her good works
- Widows not being involved in serving and doing
good works while married would not be expected to
do so after becoming widowed.
Brought up children
- The experience of female parenting
- This criteria could be met by parenting orphan
children even if no biological child
- Caring for children on an occasional basis does
not carry the responsibility of child rearing
- To receive favorably, give ear to, embrace,
make one's own, approve, not to reject, to take
upon oneself, sustain, bear and endure (Thayer
- Appears to relate to individuals who are not
friends or relative
Washed the feet of the saints
- Welcomed traveling Christians making them
- To take on the role of a servant
Cared for the afflicted
- Oppressively afflict (Bible Hub)
- Possibly beaten slave, parent of rebellious
child of friend or relative, deserted wife or one
persecuted because of faith, an orphan or unwanted
child left to defend for self.
Devoted herself to every good work.
- The widow's actions before becoming a widow
clearly shows she was God's servant
- One should expect her servant activities would
continue and that she would not become a busybody,
idler or gossiper after her being taken into their
1 Timothy 5:11-15 "Refuse to enroll younger widows, for
when their passions draw them away from Christ, they desire
to marry and so incur condemnation for having abandoned
their former faith [overcome their dedication to Christ
(IEB); abandon task enrolled to perform]. Besides that,
they learn to be idlers, going about from house to house,
and not only idlers, but also gossips and busybodies,
saying what they should not. So I would have younger widows
marry, bear children, manage their households, and give the
adversary no occasion for slander. For some have already
strayed after Satan. If any believing woman has relatives
who are widows, let her care for them. Let the church not
be burdened, so that it may care for those who are truly
1Corinthians 7:8-9 "To the unmarried [all who were once
married and are now single (IEB)] and the widows I say that
it is good for them to remain single as I am. But if they
cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is
better to marry than to burn with passion" (ESV).
- The desires for social and sexual relationships
hinder widows from performing the task they agreed
to when enrolled.
- Excessive time provides the opportunity to develop laziness and become idle, which often
results in gossiping and minding everyone's
business, a busybody.
- Because of strong sexual desires young widows
1 John 3:17-18 "Whoever has earthly possessions and notices a brother in need and yet withholds his compassion from him, how can the love of God be present in him? Little children, we must stop expressing love merely by our words and manner of speech; we must love also in action and in truth" (ISV).
Under the Old Covenant of law the Samaritan Luke 10 in the parable known as the Good Samaritan knew who was unable provide for his own needs and needed someone to help him. In the New Covenant of grace more love for the destitute, especially widows, is expected.
- John addresses the Christian family both men and women.
- Brother in without any restrictions in need of necessities of life are to be assisted. Brother is often an inclusive term being either male or female.
It is the responsibility of the widow's family, children, grandchildren or near relatives to see to her if she is unable to care for themselves. Those without family or those whose family is unable or refuses to provide for their needs are to be taken care of by individual Christians and the church body. Christian destitute widows' needs are to be met before other widows.
Christians are to have compassion for those known to be lacking in the necessities of life: e.g., the Gentile Christians sent relief to Hebrew Christians in Jerusalem.
Destitute widows who have by their actions, prior to widowhood, had a reputation of doing good, living pleasing to God, can be employed by the church. The Bible is silent regarding the purpose for enrolling. But my opinion is they performed functions needed by the Body. It could have been helping those suffering but not destitute, teaching non-Christian women the Gospel, teaching younger women how to treat their husbands and children with love and respect and to encourage them to do good works.